“Occasionally, weep deeply over the life that you hoped would be. Grieve the losses. Feel the pain. Then wash your face, trust God, and embrace the life that he’s given you,” suggests John Piper, founder and teacher of desiringGod.org and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary in Minnesota.
He said 1 Thessalonians 4:13 is the reason for his counsel, because Paul says, “We do not want you to be uninformed … about those who are asleep, about those who have died, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope.”
So, there’s real grieving, which Paul expects, and there’s hope, reminded Piper. “Grieving is real, losses are real, pain is real — really felt, really expressed — and hope is real that changes it profoundly,” he said.
Piper served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis, Min., for 33 years. The church was launched in 1871 to serve congregants of the Twin Cities. He ministered there until March 31, 2013.